Why I hate the term ‘Millennial’

I’ve started to hate the term “Millennial.”  It is so often used to disparage those it puts in the group (and it depends on who you talk to who exactly is included).  More often than not I read articles about how millennials are disconnected, selfish, have a poor work ethic, are poor parents and poor spouses,  and want everything for nothing and want to live off our parents like parasites.

Ok, I haven’t seen anyone use the word parasite but the intention goes in that direction.  Rarely do I come across a message about generations that is positive about Millenials.  The only one that comes readily to mind is an article I read once about how Millenials, due to growing up with computers, are able to multitask more efficiently, thus making it look like they are doing less work then they are actually doing.  I wish I could find that article again to link, but I think it was based on a Mike Rowe comment, although I can’t confirm that.

Millennials, also known as Gen Y,  range in age depending on what article you are reading.  In general it appears the generation includes those born between 1980 and 2000.  Which, if you think about it, is quite a big group.  The oldest members of the generation are around 36 years old, the youngest are 16-17 years old.  Some websites include more years, making it range from early forties to early teens.  So there is a wide arrange of life steps in there.  Teenagers, by virtue of their age and inexperience in life still have a lot to learn about living as adults.

Now, this is not to say that there aren’t people within this age group who fit the criteria, but it largely seems to be a media assumption that the whole generation is like that.  And on the other side of the coin, there are many who also use the term to lament all the troubles that are put on Millennials.  While I agree with some (especially in regards to economics) some are in my opinion just reactionary to being called Lazy all the time.

After all, you get told often enough that you aren’t worth anything, that you are just lazy and aren’t contributing to society you are going to start to believe it and feel like what’s the point.

So maybe we should stop saying how horrible Millenials are, and start trying to point them in directions in which they can become a larger part of the decision-making, and being in control of their own futures.  For now its in the hands of the baby boomers who seem to believe we are just TV-addicted people living in our parents homes out of nothing better to do.

There is alot to be said about mind over matter, and these continuing articles about our laziness, being disconnected, not having worthwhile relationships etc basically are telling Millenials there is nothing good about a fairly large group of people.  A group that one day will be the generation holding the power positions.  Maybe trying to understand how they might work differently than older generations, might react differently to different situations might improve the poor opinion that the older media (and occasionally millenials themselves) have of the a generation that includes 20 years worth of people.

So in summary:  Stop generalizing the generation.  Stop looking at how horrible you think they are, Media, and start thinking about the possible good in them.

Of course, being devils advocate and making clickbait articles makes you the money, doesn’t it?


Brofixes. A Pet Peeve.

I wish Male-focused Marketing would stop renaming things.  They make it sound like men need to be told that its manly to be able to enjoy thigns.  It drives me nuts, even more so when I get an unnecessarily gendered product geared for women  Like Bic for Her .  Its a pen. I don’t need to say Lady or be in pastel to know I can use it.  But do read the customer reviews, they make its existance almost worth it.

But lately I keep seeing things that have prefixes added on to them to make them more palatable to men.  Bronuts (That would be donuts, which I’m pretty sure I saw men eating long before someone thought to make money making it bro), Brogurt (that article annoys me on several levels beyond the brogurt name),Man bun, Man braids, and most recently Man Perm.

Its a freaking Perm.  Learn to enjoy what you enjoy and not let it effect how you few your gender expression.  If you want to braid your hair, go ahead and do it.  If you want to eat healthy and get a yogurt, go ahead and do so.  But please don’t do so because somehow adding “Bro” or “Man” to it suddenly makes it socially acceptable to be seen doing.

I also find it hard to believe, going back to brogurt category, that people think women wouldn’t like bigger containers of yogurt.  So I feel no threat to my femininity to go out and purchase something that says bro- or Man as part of the title.

Mainly I think this is an excuse to charge people more money, and fed on social norms to do it.

But seriously, stop calling things “Man-”  just to take a thing done all the time and make it more suitable because you are a guy.  Its a braid, a perm or a donut.  Enjoy it.

There is way too much unecessarily gendered products out there.  And I feel marketing has just continued to push gender seperation to get us to pay more just because it makes you believe that something is more feminine (the so called woman’s tax on bathroom and personal products) or masculine (the urge to rename ordinary items to make it more palatable to men).

On a happier note, there is a bronut I will happily consider, and that is Bronuts a company that makes donut holes that was founded by a pair of brothers (so the name actually makes sense and has less to do with who eats them as much as who made them).

Also I learned not to click on the Urban Dictionary links because sometimes there are completely different answers on the page and some of them I really wish I could unsee and also makes me detest the terms .



Deadpool and his Friend, Rating R

Deadpool was rated R.  It is rightfully so rated.  It earns its rating with aplomb and is happy about it.  However parents across the nation seemed baffled about a Superhero movie being R, choose to ignore it and then took their young children (and by young I mean under the age of 13) to see a movie clearly not meant for them.

The odd part of this is how much Deadpool marketing, as well as fans familiar with the comics went out of their way to try and inform parents that this movie was marketed towards adults, has always been for adults, and that it might not be something you want to bring your child to see.

Yet I sat behind a boy who couldn’t have been more then ten, and he wasn’t the only child there. Continue reading

Helping Others

A subject came up today on Facebook, and I felt like making my own post about it.  For those of you who didn’t know, I’m an American, therefore my knowledge base and information tends to have an US bias.  So this is more focused on my fellow Americans.

Often times, when a foreign group of people require our help, the phrase “We should help those who need it here first!” comes up.  I hate this phrase.  Why?

Because this is just an excuse by some people to not help anyone.

During the rest of the year when the crises of the world are not in our mind’s view, when things seem to be going alright, why aren’t these people actively trying to keep people thinking about the homeless or the other many needs of Americans?  If you only care about your ill-treated Veterans when someone else’s needs are being broadcast, you don’t really care.  You are just making an excuse not to help.

Right now, in Flint,  Michigan, there are many people sick because of bad water.  Its hard to believe that in this day and age, in such a affluent country, that we are reporting this.  And it was done to save money.  Yet I haven’t seen half the amount of posts about this subject as I have seen about *not* helping the refugees.

Why is this?  Why is the care of our citizens only important to people when it comes to saying we shouldn’t care about those outside our country?

I know people who said this and who *are* actively seeking people’s attention to the needs of their fellow citizens, but it seems like the majority are just seeking ways to not help and not be considered compassionate.

We are one of the richest countries in the world.  There is no reason we shouldn’t be able to help our own citizens AND help those in need elsewhere.  If you have the resources to help, you should do so, and if you don’t, it takes very little time to pass the information along to those who do by social media, or just by keeping the subject in the conversation.

For those of you who want to know how to help more those in Flint, Michigan, here’s an article on MIC about ways you can help.

And if you live in the greater Pittsburgh area, you can donate to Operation Safety Net, a program supported by Mercy Hospital to give out medical care to the Homeless of Pittsburgh.